My husband hide his personality from me. Advice?

He is right, one of the reasons he is acting like this is he doesn't have a job. If a man doesnt have all off his life in order and feels less of a man in anway then he is insecure and acts out. They do and say things to feel more secure. Such as cheat. A lot of men cheat because of insecurities, the other women make them feel sercure in a way the wives couldnt. Until he feels fully validated as a person, he wont be the man you married. It may take going to counseling or helping him get a job or somehow find a way to make him feel like a major contributor in your household. Right now you're the bread winner and the sole provider, thus he drink likes crazy and runs off at the mouth when you do or say simple things like share your feelings. Don't give up yet, however, don't get walked on. Let him know that you understand that the economy is bad. Make him feel like he is actually contributing and if he would help out how much of a provider he would truly be.